Tuesday, March 24, 2009
The One With Nudity
All of which is fine, but...
It's hard to be appropriately deanly after showering, standing in the locker room in the altogether drying off, when faculty colleagues walk in. “Hi, DD!” Uh, hi...
I'm not one of those guys who makes a point of just shooting the breeze while feeling the breeze. (I once belonged, briefly, to a gym habituated by some men who thought there was nothing better than hanging out in the locker room and discoursing earnestly on matters various and sundry while airing it all out. By contrast, I belong to the “dude, seriously...” school.) My economy of motion in getting from 'exposed' to 'not exposed' is almost Taylorist. And I don't care so much about being seen, say, tying a tie. But there's still an interval when there's just no getting around the fact of not really wanting to be seen.
Some of my admin colleagues have mentioned not using the campus gym for precisely that reason. They think it's tough to maintain an appropriate distance after being seen in all their glory. Admittedly, there's something to be said for that.
But that would be admitting defeat. And when you're supporting four people on a single community college salary, the prospect of paying for a private gym membership out of nothing more than modesty just seems a little tough to justify.
Wise and worldly readers – have you found a tolerable way to handle the post-shower dash at the campus gym?
It's not so much, manage, as avoid being seen in the altogether.
Scale down a level and there's just something not-so-professor-y about being nekkid in front of a student.
One of my students is scheduled at the same time as one of my weekly appointments. Awk-ward! And not really movable.
The weirdest situations are in old urban baths, where there is often a central check-in counter positioned to watch both genders' bathing areas--usually staffed by a wizened old lady. But once you've been to a mixed-gender outdoor public bath, the gym shower holds few terrors. :)
Make your nakedness a source of intimidation, not embarrassment.
It'll give you the upper hand in many conversations later on.
(Yes, I am twelve years old on the inside. Why do you ask?)
If you think it is somehow "not Deanly" to be seen in the buff--well I have to ask what it means to be "Deanly."
Seriously--is being a Dean something that means you are to be kept separate from the rest of the world? If that's the case, then perhaps you need to convince the school that you are important enough to have your own separate showers/changing room.
Honestly, it seems this is more a throw-back to the days of embarrassment in Jr High and HS gym classes, where the geek was embarrassed to be around the jocks.
If you're doing something other than showering and changing when you're in a locker room, then that's when you should worry. But all you're doing is what everybody else is doing. Maybe just make sure you always have a towel for cover.
I was a little boggled as an undergraduate when one of my Lit professors included his usual sauna times on his office hours, but hey it takes most kinds.
But I am female, and I think that locker room nudity is easier for most of us females than it is for most guys. Were not afraid of being judged, and I think that were able to separate nudity from sex more easily?
My boyfriend and a bunch of our friends often workout at the campus gym together. My boyfriend has said that the guys never undress in front of each other, other than maybe down to underwear. My girlfriends and I are not bothered by showering and changing in front of each other though.
I disagree strongly, many people according with people who have religious views and have persona preferences should have the right to private showers.
There seems to be a hypocritical notion on both sides, one the one side people seem to scoff at opposite sex nudity but tolerate same sex nudity and scoff at anyone who complains about nudity, well it is a bit hypocritical.
Imagine this your six year old son or daughter is getting changed with his/her female teacher and showering togehter in the nude , reading the comments it would be perfectly acceptable that in other places it would be indecent exposure but not in the locker room. This is a bit hypocritical, in many states urinating in the bushes can land you permanently on the sex offender list, sometimes people lie and say that he/she was caught urinating or sometimes peopel go out of the way where nobody else is looking , we Americans are hypocritical at times not everybody of course.
A teacher from Indiana was participating in a German American cultureal exchange program and was fired for taking her students to Germany , why because the locker rooms were not segregated by sex. Now the person who promotes same-sex nudity has a double standard because imagine your child's teacher or a professor nude in the same room or shower as you, or what if you are conservative and don't want to be seen in the nude at all. Its one thing to voice an opinion and comment but its another thing to be hypocritical which many people are.
Understand, you feel awkward because you chose to, not because you have to.
But today we have full body swim suits, and private shower stalls. Sad how the new prudishness has completely taken over.