Tuesday, June 27, 2006


The End of the Beginning

The Boy has had his last day of preschool. He’ll have a summer vacation, then start kindergarten in September.

I took the day off for his last day, and went with The Wife and The Girl for both the dropoff and the pickup. At the pickup, he and his friends played on the lawn for about a half hour while the parents chatted and the younger sibs milled about. We took pictures, some of which required me jumping around like a monkey to elicit the necessary smiles, and the parents made plans for summer play dates.

(Since I’m rarely there, it was fun to watch the other kids react to having a new Dad in the crowd. A younger sister, who was probably two, just stared at me in raw animal fear the entire time. Her brother, one of TB’s friends, thought it was cool that TB’s Dad was there. Other kids didn’t seem to notice one way or the other.)

Our district has full-day kindergarten, so it will be quite a change from preschool. The Girl will get more Mommy time, which is good, and The Boy will have more going on, for which he’s ridiculously ready. I’ve already told my VP to expect me to be late to work on the first day of kindergarten; as a parent, there are some things you just don’t miss.

The last day of preschool brings a strange mix of emotions. There’s the obvious pride, since TB is growing into a real person, and an admirable one. There’s the wistful recognition that he’ll never be that young again, and that every step forward is also a step away. And there’s the guilt-inducing fear of ‘what the hell are we going to do with him for the next 2 ½ months?’ (As a parent, you get good at having multiple emotions at the same time. We’re proud/happy/sad/exhausted/frustrated.)

Pretty soon we won’t be able to call him a preschooler anymore. He hasn’t looked like one for some time – he’s astonishingly tall for his age – but we could take comfort in knowing that the height was deceiving. Now it won’t be.

The Wife, who will absorb the brunt of the summer vacation, has been working overtime to find things to keep them busy: kids’ storyhour at the library, playdates, swim classes, even a day camp. Still, even with all that, there’s an intimidating amount of open time. The Boy is a great kid, but he likes to turn it up to 11 pretty much all the time, and it can get wearing. When it rains or the heat is prohibitive, running him for extended periods just isn’t an option. We don’t believe in marathon tv-watching. And a few consecutive days of housebound status with two young children is enough to drive anybody bonkers. The Wife is a trouper, but even she has limits. We can prevail upon the grandparents only so much, and major travel just isn’t in the cards. I absolutely could not do what The Wife does. Could. Not. Do. It. And for the love of all that is holy and good, I have no freakin’ idea how single parents do it.

Arlie Hochschild was onto something. Sometimes work is easier than home.
So it’s once more, pining for the beach. Big Boy school looms. Changes are afoot.

Maybe summer won’t be so bad…

How do single parents do it?
My husband has been away for 2 1/2 weeks and that has been my mantra.

My youngest finished kindergarten while he was gone. My oldest had her 5th grade graduation. One of the twins was in the school talent show -- she and two friends told jokes.

It all goes so quickly.
It seems the only constant in parenthood (and life?) is change. Hope you weather the changes well!

(And I hope The Wife weather's the summer break too!)
As I wallow in the nowhere land of being an unemployed PhD, seeking seeking seeking... I keep reminding myself that my two boys are only this age once. I try to spend as many days working at home as I can. I remember all too well the 5 months I spent with the two of them, as stay-at-home try-to-keep-my sanity dad before we got an au pair. You're right, parents get good at multiple emotions. Good luck with the transition (and with the summer). We'll be there in a year or so.
Do the kids play with other children in the summer outside of structured play dates?
Let's hear it for day camps and the swimming pool, the only way parents keep their sanity in the summer. I'm amazed at how long son can throw a pool toy and retrieve it without getting bored (two hours!). And evening walks around the neighborhood to tire Son out just before bed.
But my favorite childhood recollections are of doing nothing, lazing around the house. (Okay, most of this doing nothing involved reading). Let's hear it also for unstructured drawing time. A great way to occupy hours and hours.
You are such a wonderful Dad! One day, your kids will cherish memories you are making with them today.
DIdn't they have a graduation from day care? Our DC had a big ceremony complete with caps and gowns for the rising kindergartners. It was quite an affair. A full day kindergarten is the way to go, he will love it. Enjoy the rest of the summer.
Ah, milestones. It goes so fast, doesn't it?

And yes, (whispers) it is a huge relief to be back in my quiet, orderly office after 10 days of chaos with the boys. I miss them already, but it sure is nice to type without someone dangling from my elbow...
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